“The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.”
-Mahatma Gandhi, The Great-Souled One
If you struggle with forgiveness, I’m here to tell you that you’re not alone. We all have been victims of betrayal, bullying, deception, and abuse. No one leaves this world unscathed.
I want you to know that there is peace on the other side of that hurt, and it is your responsibility to seek it out. A great place to start is with offering forgiveness.
Before we get deeper into the subject, let’s discuss what forgiveness is not.
Forgiveness is not:
⛔️ Letting anyone off the hook
⛔️ Reducing the seriousness of the offense
⛔️ Forgetting what happened (probably would if we could!)
⛔️ Condoning what happened
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If you’re open to it, here’s some advice to help you start the forgiveness process:
SEEK TO UNDERSTAND 🧠 ♥️
“Understanding can overcome any situation, however mysterious or insurmountable it may appear to be.” -Norman Vincent Peale, Positive Thinker Extraordinaire
“The true mark of maturity is when somebody hurts you and you try to understand their situation instead of trying to hurt them back.” -Some Wonderful Person
“Choose everyday to forgive yourself. You are human. You are flawed, and most of all worthy of love.” -Alison Malee, Poet
VOW TO MOVE FORWARD 🛤
“If you don’t leave your past in the past, it will destroy your future. Live for what today has to offer, not for what yesterday has taken away.” -Some Important Person
SET BOUNDARIES 🚧
“Love yourself enough to set boundaries. Your time and energy are precious. You get to choose how you use it. You teach people how to treat you by deciding what you will and won’t accept.” -Anna Taylor, Author
CALL TYRONEEE! 📞
You know, your therapist, Tyrone. He’s waiting by the phone ready to help you get through this. Your therapist’s name isn’t Tyrone, you say? Well, call what’s-his-name anyway!
And there you have it. By no means is this an exhaustive list of solutions, but I hope it helps someone. What’s been the hardest part of your forgiveness journey? Drop a comment below, family!